Mid Life Crisis, Myth or Reality? Dr Benejam
We spend the “first half” of our lives focused on conquering the world…. and then, the “second half” conquering our spirits, ourselves!
This transition of focus or sometimes called Mid Life Crisis is associated with other factors (e.g. losses, disappointments, setbacks, crises, successes, changes, sense of emptiness, etc.) sometimes brings about significant dissonance. This contributes to feeling disoriented, confused, and in desperate need to identify and pursue a new lifestyle.
Of course, when we talk about “halves” these refer to age ranges. Some people might experience “Mid Life Crisis”, as early as, in their 30’s but others might go through this in their 40’s and 50’s (or even later in life).
The other important factor is that everyone is unique and different. We all experience changes (internal and external) in different ways. As such, how we approach, face and resolve this “Mid Life Crisis” becomes part of our personal journey of growth and evolution through life. The key is to recognize and acknowledge this, and to experience and face it with full awareness.
Facing any situation that might feel like a “Midlife Crisis” should be taken seriously and, as with any other potential crisis, it represents an opportunity for growth if handled properly.
It is very challenging often to be able to approach our “Mid Life Crisis” head on when we live such busy lives full of many responsibilities that require constant attention. However, finding some time within our busy schedules to be aware of this situation can help tremendously.
If you feel you’re experiencing a “Midlife Crisis” there are several actions you can take. First, there are many books, articles and material related to this subject that can help provide some insight into what you are experiencing. By educating yourself you increase the chances of evolving into a better “you”.
Also, talking to friends and family can also provide a supportive environment while also opening to others’ ideas, thoughts and suggestions. Talking to someone who has experienced something similar can also be of great help.
Finally, accessing a qualified, emphatic professional such as a psychologist, can be a significant step in cruising through these challenging stages while gaining more insight into ourselves.
The most important step during our midlife crisis, however, will be to acknowledge any subjective experience, tend to it, and use it as a building block in our journey of growth and life!